One of the most challenging, yet essential skills needed to succeed in today’s workforce is learning how to handle rejection. This “soft skill” is rarely taught, but is quickly learned through trial and error.
If you work in sales or if you are an actor, you are more likely to know how to pitch your product or your talent in that proverbial elevator spiel. People in Sales might also know how to convert a “No/Not now” into a “Yes!”
While your ego may tempt you to ignore the news, the hallmark of a true professional is demonstrating that you are a team player and know how to handle rejection. The following repost is an excellent blog from one of today’s leading career experts.
You just got the rejection notice that said you did not get the job you really wanted.
What could have happened:
- There was a more qualified candidate than you for this position.
- You did not demonstrate one or more attributes that they were looking for in a candidate. You may have those qualities, but you did not convey them in the hiring process.
- There was an internal candidate that was deemed a safer hire.
- They just made a mistake and hired the wrong person.
You did not get the job. That is true—but let’s create a process where you can learn and grow from the experience.
What are you going to do now?
Immediately after the interview, consider doing the following:
- Write a personalized, hand-written thank you note to everyone you interviewed with. If possible, hand carry them to the office where you interviewed.
- Write a personalized e-mail to everyone you interviewed with.
- Send a LinkedIn request to everyone you interviewed with. You want to gain as many connections into the organization as possible.
After you have been informed that you did not get the job, consider doing the following:
- E-mail the hiring manager, thanking him or her for the opportunity to interview for the position. Mention that you would like to be considered for other opportunities in the future.
- E-mail others that you interviewed with, and thank them for their time. Ask them for any feedback that they may be able to provide.
- If you followed the Targeted Job Search strategy and Targeted the Company , you should have had an employee referral. If so, then ask your referral to do some detective work.
1-2 Months Later
Monitor LinkedIn for changes in the department that you interviewed:
- Check to see who was hired for the position.
- If it was an external candidate, check to see how their credentials compare to yours. Were they better qualified?
- Send a connection request to the individual who was hired.
3-6 Months Later
Reach out to the person hired and ask to meet for coffee or lunch. Ask for AIR-Advice, Insights and Recommendations!
What could happen:
- The person who was hired might not work out. I have seen this happen!
- They might open up other positions for which you will be a better fit.
- You could learn that the person they hired was better qualified and a better fit.
I recently had a client that was hired a year after the person they hired did not work out, and they changed the job description to better fit my client’s qualifications.
When you do not get the job of your dreams, be persistent and do not let inertia set in!
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