Be the Change You Wish to See

Immigration USFor those of you interested in looking within for answers as to how we can do more to help change situations such as the effect of the current immigration policy on children and families, I would like to offer the following writing activity developed by Martha Beck. This is a reflective activity called “Be The Change” that teaches how to take a negative situation and turn it around to take action on a personal level.

The first part is to write a letter to a person or group of people that you think SHOULD be doing something different. In this case, I could write to President Trump, the ICE patrols, or people on Facebook that are defending the immigration policies that I disagree with. I would unleash all my rage and sorrow on the page, then rip up, shred, or burn the letter.

The next step is to examine the behaviors that bother me: to realize how what I’m noticing and criticizing in others is something I’m actually doing myself and to myself.

For example, my thought might be: “I think people should be more compassionate to immigrants and refugees.”

When I turn that around into a statement about what I should be doing it becomes, “I should be more compassionate to immigrants and refugees.”

I then make of list of how I am not being compassionate to immigrants and refugees in my immediate life, which includes looking at ways I’m also not compassionate to myself.

The final step is to create an action plan. For example, I can smile more and be more welcoming to others, and especially look for opportunities to smile at children and make them feel more welcome where I work. I can also find ways to be more compassionate to myself, in those moments when I feel like I’m not doing enough to help. For example, I have to work on June 30th and can’t attend a demonstration. I can let myself off the hook and instead, share an activity like this that may help others work through their feelings and create their own personal action plans.

Be the Change you want to see in this world. Be excellent to yourself and others! #bethechange #compassion #keepfamiliestogether

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God is Always Hiring

God is Always Hiring

I recently discovered this gem of a book on sale and knew it was perfect for my students and clients.

For those of you who are surrounded by naysayers and are feeling discouraged from pursuing your dream job — as a writer, artist, poet, musician, actor, puppeteer, or whatever that might be, you’ll find daily doses of encouragement in Regina Brett’s book, God is Always Hiring: 50 Lessons for Finding Fulfilling Work.

You can preview the book online at Google Books.

Whether you are seeking your first job, are unemployed or underemployed, the number one motivating factor that will help you find fulfilling work is your own passion to do what you love.

Know Thyself

Employers will always be looking for passionate people to help them carry out their mission. Whether you want to create your own opportunities or join forces with others, know what you are passionate about:

  • What is it that you want to do more than anything else?
  • What have you been doing for 10,000 hours?
  • What gift, talent, or expertise do you want to share with the world?
  • What problem do you want to solve? (climate change? human trafficking?)

If you have your own mission and an entrepreneurial spirit, then channel that passion into creating your own organization. Find a mentor, network with people who are doing what you want to do, create a timeline for developing your business so you can measure progress towards your goals.

If you’d like some guidance along the way, contact me for a free coaching session!

 

Setting intentions for 2018

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I love this time of year! Not just because of the holidays, but because I can review my progress and set intentions for the new year.

Setting intentions are not the same as setting goals, and I’m not talking about New Year’s resolutions. Confused? I was too when I first discovered the concept of intention setting in the work of Dr. Wayne Dyer and other thought leaders such as Rhonda Byrne (The Secret) and Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup for the Soul).

So what is the difference between setting an intention and setting a goal or New Year’s resolution? Well, it has to do with your intentions! The word “Intention” has multiple meanings, which hint at its being imbued with something more than just an idea, goal, or desire. For example, in Medicine, intention refers to “the healing process of a wound”. In earlier centuries, people would be asked to “declare their intentions” before a marriage (or a duel!) which hints at the importance of speaking an intention out loud.

By contrast, resolutions are built on your resolve, determination, and perseverance. These are feelings and emotions that help motivate people to take action towards a goal or intention. However, all too often, after setting New Year’s Resolutions, people run out of steam. Their resolve diminishes because they aren’t seeing or experiencing evidence that they are making progress.

On the other hand, goals have measurable results. They are the details and milestones used to measure progress. We can successfully set goals for our intentions and measure our progress as long as we keep them realistic, such as setting small, or short-term, achievable steps and actions that guarantee results.

If you’d like help setting intentions or goals for 2018, contact me for a free initial consultation. My intention this year is to help as many people as possible achieve their dreams!

Best wishes for a very happy holiday season — and may all your good dreams come true!

Rebecca

Nothing is impossible WD

 

Why are dreams important?

 

Never Stop Dreaming

Did you know that you receive vital information in your dreams?

While many people will shrug off their dreams, here’s some evidence about WHY you might want to pay more attention to your dreams.

A few months before 911, actor Mark Ruffalo had a dream unlike any other dream he’d ever had before. He decided to take the dream seriously and took immediate action by seeing a doctor.

Mark Ruffalo’s dream diagnosis saves his life

In another case, author Wanda Burch received a life saving dream diagnosis as documented in She Who Dreams. Here’s Wanda discussing her experience with the founder of active dreaming, Robert Moss.

Fighting cancer with active dreaming techniques

There’s other reasons why successful people pay attention to their dreams, and learn how to interpret the sometimes cryptic messages to choose a course of action. Great inventors and scientists such as Edison and Einstein often took naps to cultivate ideas for challenging problems.

While “sleeping on it” may not sound productive to some, with time and practice, it can become quite a revelation for those willing to open their minds to other possibilities!

If you’d like to discuss a recent dream or how to develop more effective dreams, contact me!

Carol Dweck: The Power of YET

Carol Dweck: The power of believing that you can improve | Talk Video | TED.com.

We often hear people refer to the power of Now, but have you ever heard about the power of YET? In this powerful TedTalk, Dr. Carol Dweck, one of the foremost researchers in educational psychology, discusses how to provide children with the opportunity to succeed through the power and process of YET.

We owe it to all of our children to give them the skills that will empower them to solve problems, any problems. Problem solving skills and perseverence will be the most highly sought after skills in the near distant future when these children inherit a world filled with challenges not of their making.

If you are a parent, teacher, or influencer, I urge you to watch this short clip so you can understand how simple it is to transform learning and students so all of them can succeed!

 

How true leaders behave

Simon Sinek: Why good leaders make you feel safe | Talk Video | TED.com.

I love this Leadership TEDtalk presented by Simon Sinek!

He describes how a true leader behaves.

People immediately recognize and respond to a leader who makes them feel safe. They are willing to give their trust to a person who they instinctively know will respect and honor them. According to Sinek, a true leader looks after the person on their left, and the person on their right.

They do not discriminate. They treat all people equally.

A good organizational leader instinctively knows that valuing and acknowledging their employees efforts and contributions, and investing in them by providing feedback and coaching if and when needed is going to make a huge difference when times get tough.

Sinek also discusses how anyone can lead from any level of an organization. By building trust and looking after the best interests of your colleagues, you forge a bond and create value that goes beyond a paycheck.

Ask yourself:

  • How can I build trust and support?
  • Who might appreciate extra assistance?
  • How can I make a difference?

Then take action!

Create a partnership, collaborate, and start building your team and support network!

 

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VIA Character Survey

When working with students or clients, it is essential to have a set of tools that provide or encourage a feedback flow.

Tools like the VIA Character Survey open communication channels so that we can start a conversation about what really matters most to the person seeking information or assistance. These assessment tools can also serve as a starting point when interviewing and getting to know a new client. Once the conversation is flowing, we can begin to identify issues important to our clients so together we can form a collaborative plan to move them forward.

One of the best (free!) tools I’ve come across is the VIA Character Survey. (see link)

The VIA Character Survey is a fun and revealing way to get to know yourself and others. The survey was developed by a team of psychologists including Dr. Martin Seligman, the “father of Positive Psychology” and author of Authentic Happines and Flourish. The survey has been taken by over 2.6 million people in over 190 countries!

Learners and clients can take the survey to self-evaluate character strengths such as curiosity, gratitude, humor and zest. The survey results help individuals understand the character traits that reflect their “true” selves.

My top five character traits are: Gratitude, Spirituality, Hope, Love, and Curiosity

What are your top character traits? Take the VIA Survey and come back and share your results!